“Sometime, I’m going to marry you,” she introduced not lengthy after they first began relationship.
In 2010, two met by means of Bay Space yoga circles, the place Ms. Barker, 57, a designer for a specialty leather-based firm and a yoga instructor, is well-known. Because the early 2000s, she has provided yoga lessons centered on supporting L.G.B.T. and nonbinary college students. For a number of years, the 2 crossed paths in overlapping social circles having fun with a platonic connection.
However in the summertime of 2012, romance flared. Over their first lengthy weekend collectively, dialog uncovered each compatibility and variations between them.
Ms. Caskey grew up in Oakland, Calif., the place her dad and mom nonetheless stay. She studied on the Berkeley Natural Heart and is now a medical herbalist in non-public observe. Ms. Barker was raised in Devon, England, and left house at a teen to journey. Within the early 1980s, she lived on the Greenham Frequent Girls’s Peace Camp in Berkshire, England, which was shaped as a protest towards nuclear weapons. After a stint in London, she made her house in San Francisco.
Clear communication turned paramount to their partnership. From the get-go, Ms. Barker was direct, decisive and sort, the kind of qualities that Ms. Caskey admired and continues to understand. In 2013, Ms. Caskey dedicated to co-parenting Ms. Barker’s adopted son, Moses, now 11, forming a household with Ms. Barker and her former home companion, Saun-Toy Trotter and Ms. Trotter’s companion, Jaron Browne.
Their Nov. 12 on-line ceremony was officiated by Dalia Zatkin, a deputy marriage commissioner for Alameda County in California and held within the backyard at Ms. Caskey’s childhood Oakland house. Ms. Caskey wore an ivory vintage-style gown provided by a neighbor on a “Purchase Nothing” e mail group. Ms. Barker wore a flowered shirt with an indigo-dyed waistcoat that she had refashioned from a jacket she present in a thrift retailer.